People enjoy having little boxes, little filing drawers, where each one can be put in or filed.

If you step out of that box you just don’t matter as much to the other person and it can go one of two ways.

You either get filed in archives or you get serious attention, trying to get you back where you “belong” …

Most so-called open minded peeps can’t get to just accept that someone can or will change or decide to swop their box for a different one.

These open-minded people will then rather outgrow you before they re-arrange their little boxes.

Good riddance.

You don’t need wannabes in your circle.



Life, Love, Trip down Memory Lane



Going way back now, back to my high school days.

Whenever there was a party to be held, for whatever reason, it was always held in the residential garage of the kid whose party it was.

Whether the parents were wealthy enough to have a double, triple or just a single garage, the party was always set up in the garage.

Chairs and tables were carried in, convenient food, snacks and cold drinks was the only refreshments, well the only legal, parental cleared refreshments, what went down behind the scenes, underneath the tables and in the dark of night was a different story, a story for another day.

Not everyone was popular enough to be invited to all the parties, and back in my day your age was actually taken into consideration.

My brother who was one grade ahead of me in school got invitations to all the parties, very well-liked by the young ladies, I of course also received invitations and never had a problem with my parents as my brother was older and supposed to look after me and see that I get home safe.

The main focus was on the music that was played, the sound system and the records or tapes that played either made the party a hit, or turned it into a dull gathering.
Different coloured lights or disco balls would be hanging from the ceiling, creating the party and dance atmosphere.

The parents always wanted assurance that there would be adults present to keep an eye on the teenagers. That was never a problem back then, the parents were at home and looked in from time to time.

Parents would drop their kids off at the party and also picked them up later when it ended, normally way before midnight.

I lived in a small town where clubs were unheard of, so you visited at the friend’s houses and that was that.

I enjoyed the mingling at the parties, the laughter, the dancing.


Those of the same age as me will know that at some stage during the night the music would become slower and the lights would be dimmed and that was when the slow dances were danced.

So many songs, so little time ……

What I am trying to say is make memories, make memories every single day of your life, don’t distinguish between good or bad, make them, then my friends you will never be alone, you will always have your memories to keep you company.



Health, Life


Uses for Baking Soda that May Surprise You .


Baking soda mixed with a little warm water is an excellent exfoliator for the face and other parts of the body. The baking soda will smooth the skin, remove dead skin cells and leave your skin feeling fresh and vibrant. You can even dab a little paste on acne spots. It will help to draw out toxins and reduce redness.

Relieve gout

Gout is a very painful and uncomfortable condition that is caused by uric acid that is overproduced by the body until it builds up to very high levels and settles in the joints. This causes painful swelling and inflammation. Mix two tablespoons of fresh lemon juice with a teaspoon of baking soda and drink up! The baking soda will alkalinize the urine and neutralize the uric acid.

Wash fruits and vegetables

Baking soda is a safe way to remove dirt and residue from fresh fruit and vegetables. Sprinkle a little on a clean sponge, scrub and rinse.

Rid hair of build-up

If you use a lot of product in your hair and want the true “squeaky clean” feel, try baking soda. Combine one tablespoon of baking soda with one cup of warm water and apply to damp hair. Comb through and rinse well.

Clean coffee and tea pots

To remove tea and coffee stains and reduce bitter taste left in mugs, use a solution of ¼ cup baking soda and 1 quart warm water. Some stubborn stains may require overnight soaking in the solution or some scrubbing with a soft sponge. Either way, you are left with a sparkling clean coffee pot and mugs.

Clean floors

To remove dirt and grime without scratching no-wax and tile floors, mix ½ cup baking soda in a bucket with warm water and scrub. Rinse clean after scrubbing. To remove scuff marks, put a little baking soda on a damp sponge, scrub lightly and rinse.

Deodorize drains

Nothing neutralizes odours better than baking soda. To keep your tub and sink drains smelling fresh, pour ½ cup of baking soda down the drain while running some warm tap water down the drain. You can also pour some down your garbage disposal and run some warm water while running your disposal. Add a little baking soda to your dishwashing detergent to help fight stubborn stains and bacteria.

Ease itchiness and swelling

Skip the commercial creams and lotions and try baking soda for your itchy or irritated skin. You can ease uncomfortable itchiness and swelling from poison ivy or oak, as well as bug bites, with a little baking soda. Make a paste with a little baking soda and water and apply to the irritated area. This will work for bee stings and chicken pox as well.

Car cleaner

Why pay a whole lot of money for a variety of different products to clean your car when all you need is a box of baking soda? You can use baking soda to clean the lights, windows, tires, floor mats, vinyl seats and more without fear of scratch marks. Simply mix ¼ cup baking soda in 1 quart of warm water and apply with a clean soft rag or sponge. For really difficult stains, use a soft brush.

The next time you are at the store and you pass the baking soda, think twice.

It may be inexpensive and seemingly unworthy, but in reality, baking soda is a wise, environmentally friendly and healthy thing to stock up on.

Life, Love



“To have loved and lost is better than to not having loved at all.”

Love is such a wonderful feeling, the joy, the excitement, the feeling of blood rushing through your veins, feeling alive.

The butterflies in your stomach when you see your lover, the heat that flames up when you touch.

Never deny yourself that feeling, even if it lasts only a short while, even if it breaks your heart, even if it feels as if you cannot face the next day, you can and you will.

Love is not meant to be in a cage, love is meant to be free, so love and be loved.

When the joy is replaced by tears, cry them, let them cut deep into your soul.

That is what makes you human.

Love someone the way you want to be loved.

But beware, not everyone who says “I love you” mean what they say.

Sometimes people leave stains behind, in your heart, in your mind, in you as a person. You then feel like reaching for the strongest stain removal agent you can lay your hands on, just to get rid of that “feeling” of nothingness.

But the trick is to not let it get to you, no one must ever have the power to take away your joy, don’t let them.

Your heart must always stay clean for the next season of loving that will come to you.





Health, Life


The advantage of drinking hot (comfortably warm) water …

Cleanses out the stomach
Stimulates the sluggish liver
Causes the urine to flow as it should 
Promotes downward peristalsis – it keeps undigested foods moving.
Liquefies and purifies the blood
Washes out uric acid from the joints
It greatly lightens the labour of the heart – pure liquid blood
It quickly diminishes pain
It induces sound, refreshing sleep

No other drink quenches thirst as well as hot water

Water should be slowly sipped like tea or coffee – comfortably warm and not foolishly hot

Aim for not less than 4 x 500ml of warm water a day, drink it at least 1½ hours before each of your three meals, always on an empty stomach.

The last 500ml to be taken 3 hours after your last meal of the day

The longer you take hot water, the more you will feel the benefit

hot drink


Life, Love



What is it of life that I would miss the day I am dead?

Okay I know that when I die I would most probably not miss this world, but since I have never died yet, I don’t know, so this is what I believe I would miss if I had to die today.

First of all I will miss my son, most of all his smile, he has this way of smiling that can light up a city, it starts small, with a twinkle in his eyes and then it moves to the dimples in his cheeks, and then spreads to his whole face.

No matter how dark my day is or how mad I am with him, it is his smile that brings me back to “normality”.

I will miss the people I work with, it is such a pleasure to see their smiling faces each morning when I get to work, I enjoy greeting them one by one and having a little chat here and there, the same goes for home-time, we have become like family.

I do believe I will miss them.

I will miss the wind. I love when the wind plays with my hair, when I feel the wind on my face, the coolness of the wind on a hot summer day.

I will miss the sun. The warmth on my skin. The feeling of being healthy when out in the sun.

I will miss the rain. The smell of rain mixing with dust, there is just no other smell like it. The sound of rain falling outside whilst in bed, falling asleep to the sound of it.

I will miss nodding off sitting in the winter’s sun, the drowsy feeling between being awake and sleep.

I will miss the sound of laughter, listening to people laughing, and the sound of Joy.

I will miss the ocean. Watching the waves break and rolling onto the shore, the smell of fresh air mixing with salt and seaweed, the smell of wet sand and rocks.

I will miss the earth, the feeling of walking bare feet on the grass, the sand, even the little stones digging into your soft skin, it brings you as close to nature as you possibly can get.

I will miss reading, reading has the ability to transform your present state of mind, and it takes you wherever you give your mind permission to go, it opens up a whole new world, and it teaches you to use your imagination.

I will miss music, no need to explain this one, as music, well music is music.




Afrikaans, Life


Ek het myself nog altyd as redelik intelligent gesien, ook heel sag op die oog.
My brein is gewoonlik in topversnelling en ek probeer altyd meer weet en probeer ook die ware feite van alles te bekom en ook my lewenslesse te leer.
Wat ek wel sukkel om te verstaan is hoe sekere vroue die absolute mag het om n man totaal en al “ketools” te maak.
Die manne hardloop soos klein hondjies agter hierdie tipe vroue aan, die vrou klap haar vingers en die man “perform”.
Hoe is dit so ?
Hierdie tipe vroue is baie gevaarlik, hul ken die fyn kuns van manipulasie, die man sal lieg, bedrieg, steel en selfs moor vir so n vrou.
Dit is nie n nuwe verskynsel nie, dit gebeur al van die begin van tyd af, sekere vroue wat n web spin en die man heeltemal daarin toedraai, so vasgespin dat hy nie eers reguit kan dink nie.
Hierdie tipe vroue is gewoonlik glad nie netjies nie en sommer net lui, hul is ook soms onnet op hulself, die man moet die huishouding aan die gang hou sowel as die vrou gelukkig hou.
Die vroue kom en gaan soos dit hul pas, wanneer hul genoeg gehad het, word die sakkie gepak en hul wip hul gatte en weg is hul, net om oor n rukkie terug te keer, met die man al kruipende, want ag foeitog hy kon dit dan nou kwansuis amper nie oorleef sonder die vrou nie.
Dit gaan glad nie oor mooi of slimwees nie, die vroue is gewoonlik nie een van die twee nie, hul is wel slim genoeg om die man aan sy neus rond te lei.
Dit gaan ook nie regtig oor sensualiteit of opwinding nie, want die meeste van ons gewone, normale vroue bied dit ook vir n man aan.
Wat is dit wat hul het, of gebruik om die man so te “hou” so als vir haar te laat doen, en dan self jammer te voel oor hy haar nie alles kan bied nie.
Dit is vir my verstommend hoe sekere vroue die kuns bemeester het om n man so absoluut afhanklik van haar te maak.
Ek kon nog nooit n man se aandag so geheel en al vasvang nie.